Friday, March 31, 2006

Triangle- Visiting Outside


Twice this week

I had conversations with different people
about whether it's possible to love two people at the same time?

At a point in time
when I was much younger
and just basically a possesive, insecure child
I would have said 'no', confirmed, without a doubt
don't-even-go-there type of no

But the more I grow, the more I see, experience and do
the more I am open to the fact that there are inumerable
facets to love

Yes, it is possible to love more than one person

and whether you accept it or not

just depends on your individual perception on life and love
your principles, your current emotional standing
your ability to see and think beyond the boundaries set,
outside the box

delve into unchartered territory.

Some people lead a peaceful lives loving more than one
loving each one differently, completely
without causing heartache, without cheapening each pairing

I'm an old fashioned girl at heart
yeah lately I've found myself pushing the levels
of what is emotionally acceptable within relationships
and what not.

but like most other people , at the end of the day
I want to settle down with someone who completes me
loves every single one of my flaws and quirks
as I will them.

But realistically how many people find that?
and if you don't find it,
Would it be possible instead to live contentedly with
several people who love different sides of you
making a whole loved you?

and to love the different parts of different people that
together will make up your perfect person?

Would that be okay? Will it one day be socially acceptable?
Or will a person with multiple relationships always be considered cheap and disloyal?

Even if each party knows, and is cool with it
Even if these relationships
turn out happier, more stable and possess a higher level of respect than
your ordinary relationship because no one told them
what to do, or how to love?

Why is there even a right kind of love
and a wrong?

We have this need for definition
to fit everything we do under the pre-set category
but with if what you have/think/feel
doesnt exist in the box of definitions?

Sometimes you can keep some things undefined
because they are best that way.
drawing lines around something just confines it
spoils its potential to blossom into something even more special.

Ah, but before someone tells me
I forget, the boundaries were set for people
wouldn't be able to function
without being told what's right and wrong,
who need them for guidance.

Chalk it up, another bout of pointless mind wandering for Ms. Ng.


5 comments:

Unknown said...

I lurve everyone; so yeah, two should be quite manageable.

Eaglet said...

Somehow I knew,just knew, I'd be you.
Haha

Anonymous said...

in the words of that astute songstress, Sheryl Crow:

"if it makes you happy,
it can't be that bad"

Anonymous said...

Ya know, Ja. Once you dissect something...you kill it. You finally get it, but its dead.

Put down your scalpel along with your need to dissect things. For your own good. *wink*

Anonymous said...

i agree with the bard, but i also agree with your take on loving more than one, in my case, i reckon it'd be more like 2, one for the mind and one for the body, lol! but the downside that comes to mind is the fact that i'm still possesive, though in a one-way sense, you're mine but i'm not yours. i'd love for your point of view to work out, but i dont see more than heartache coming out of it.